What are the rules about returning an engagement ring?
I've heard three different rules, are these accurate? If not, what are the guidelines about the rules of the engagement ring?
Rule 1: If the giver (usually the would-be groom) calls off the wedding the Receiver (usually the would-be bride) keeps the ring.
Rule 2: If the Receiver calls off the wedding the ring is returned to the giver.
Rule 3: If the relationship ends on mutual terms the ring is sold and the money is split evenly.
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Answer by Sean O
Ms. Manners would tell you the first two rules are accurate. I have never heard the third rule put that way. My understanding is that if the relationship ends mutually, the person whom bore the financial responsibility keeps the ring (ie. if the ring was purchased with mutual monies I could see a sell and split situation).
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That sounds about right.
One thing to add: if the ring is a family heirloom or was passed down it goes back to whichever family member gave it to the couple. Doesn’t matter WHO broke it off.
i think the third rule is horse poop
the first 2 are correct however
First, in returning an engagement ring you must slap the other person and demand the ring back. Don’t hesitate to kick her/him when they are down. If it is a male kick him “there.” If it is a female slap her around a bit. Then poke their eyes out, eat the boogers, and lastly smash their teeth. Get the ring, jack their car, and run before the neighbors figure out what’s happening. (also moving to Mexico might be a good idea)
all the rules you stated are true or at least that is what i have heard.
The ring is a promise to marry, if the marriage don’t take place the groom gets it back, Period!
I would think that if the marriage does not happen, then the ring should be returned, regardless of who calls it off. Why would the bride want to keep a ring that symbolizes a failed relationship/marriage?
Rule 1 is correct . . Rule 2 is correct. Rule 3 ???????
I learned that “if the relationship ends on mutual terms” the lady (or receiver) returns the ring to the gentlemen, and he can do whatever he wants with the ring.
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
I say, regardless of what happens, the woman should give the man back the ring. It does her no good to keep it.
It is my understanding that the ring is always returned to the groom to be regardless of who ends the engagement. That is proper etiquette.
http://www.emilypost.com/weddings/tips/broken_engagement.htm
Tradition sucks…the person who ‘paid’ for the ring should get it back…