Beautiful engagement ring?
My fiance gave me another engagement ring. He didnt like the first one which was more simple looking. The second one is more elegant and glamorous and I’m afraid I’m going to get jealous looks and envious gestures because of it: sisters, cousins etc. Especially the sister I live with who happens to be so bitter and envyous of just about everyone. How should I deal with this. I am very modest and don’t believe in showing off things and being boastful. I was a little uncomfortable when he gave me this ring because I know the craziness I will have to deal with. Ladies….help or guys.
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most people don’t give looks like that over a ring…are you sure you didn’t complian about the simple ring so he got you another…obviloiusy he picked the first one and thought it was the ring that he liked 4 you…
Hunny, you deserve it. Let them be envious for a change. Just allow yourself to be happy about it. And be thrilled that you mean so much to someone. It is showing the love that you two have together, it is not about how big it is or isn’t, how nice it is, or how expensive it is. Just relax and let yourself feel the happiness that you should be feeling.
I think you answered your own question, you are not the type to show off the things you have, keep the news to your self, enjoy the ring you dont have to tell everyone about it. if someone asks than talk about it.
ummmmm …. could this be a great example of backwards bragging??
Your attitude about the ring will be more telling than the ring itself. If you just wear it un-self consciously and don’t make any big issue about it, neither will any one else.
Do you love him or not? You obviously care more about what everybody thinks, except him. It is his token of his love for you. The first thing you had better learn about men is that we tend to have fragile egos, especially if the one we love would fuss about the ring he gave her. Settle down girl, it is about you two, not just you any more. And to hell with the disgruntled sister, you are leaving that family to make your family. Best of luck, its all about YOU.
I think you may be overthinking this whole thing. I’ve heard of women making joking comments about being jealous or blinded by bling, but the fact is most women aren’t going to spend that much time obsessing over someone else’s engagement ring. And since your sister is already bitter about just about everything, what’s one more thing?
Do you like the ring your fiance gave you? If so, then just let him put it on your finger and enjoy it. If there’s some reason (other than the fear of other women ganging up to hate you because your guy got you a nice ring) why you dislike it, then talk to him and see if you can’t go together to choose a third ring that will please both of you.
Chances are that there really won’t be any craziness to deal with at all if you just accept the ring and wear it.
Be yourself and get what YOU want!! Sounds like the sisters will never be happy with what ever you do!! You are the one who is going to wear it for a lifetime. My wife and I went to Mexico to a gold maker(?) took 3 or 4 trips to see the mold, approved of it and it was shipped to our house one day before the wedding (the post office left in by our door…duh…) I have a simple band, my wife has about 30 diamonds (small) except the center one which was her father’s(deceased) given to her mother (alive) and I am always proud to see it on her finger!!! Went to Mexico because I took a bunch of scrap gold which he weighed and gave us the equal value of … Have a Great wedding and Congratulations!! Sounds like your fiance really cares for You!!!!!
Have him return the second ring, and go back to wearing the original one. God, you’re immature….
Sisters are great and will be your sisters forever, but you are involved with the man you chosen to spend the rest of your life with. And the day comes when he will take you for the place where you live with your envy sister, and you will be just fine. Wear you ring with pride and disregard any crap your sister gives you. She will change her mind one day… hopefully…
I have younger sister whose is more fortunate than I, meaning her husband is better paid than mine, but that is about it. Her engagement ring is from “Tiffany”, mine is from my great-great-great-great grandmother. It is very small. But one day it will go to my daughter because of the strong family tradition (the older daughter in the family gets it). So, guess who envies whom.
Well, you can tell him that the first was fine and you would have been happy with that…but diamond rings are like cars…the second they are out of the store, they aren’t worth as much, so you can’t sell it back for as much as you paid for it. So, I’d say keep it, admire it when you’re alone and just don’t bring too much attention to it when you’re with other people who might get jealous. Truthfully though, I’d be thrilled and I’d tell my sister or whomever else to shut their mouths b/c their jealousy is ruining your engagment and wedding.
You are making a problem out of nothing wear the ring with pride. You should not have to hide your good fortune.
Are you going to pick an ugly wedding dress so you don’t make others jealous? If they can’t share in your joy maybe they shouldn’t be part of your life.
Maybe you should not be living with your bitter sister.
Just wear it. The bitter people just have to get used to it.
All you can do is let the envy envy you and let the ones that do love you be happy for you with that gorgeous ring. You should be very happy and proud that your fiance got you another one because he loves you and wants you to have the best. Wear it proud and with love from your fiance.
Just wear it and love it and be grateful that he cares enough to want the best for you. Dont bother showing people. When they notice, then tell them, but dont rub their noses into it. It is none of their business and if they are going to carry on and get jealous over this, then maybe it is time for you to find some more mature friends and relatives!
Personally, the flashier ring would never mean as much to me as the ring he originally proposed with.
ehh don’t sweat it!!! just live life!!!!
who cares about the comments and stares…its YOUR ring and if you love it, thats all that matters. They should just be happy for you! If they have a problem with the expense or glamour of the ring….too bad! They’re jealous and thats a crappy thing to put on you when they should be happy for you
This is a sign of his love and pending commitment. I f your sister is so bitter as to try to take away from you finding Mr. Right then it sounds like personal issue you shouldn’t get to involved with. Wear you ring with pride, Because he knows your worth it he just wants others to know the same. You don’t have to show it off just wear it and if others cant be happy for you it’s not your problem. I’m happy for you.
Congrats and Good Luck.
Well I don’t think you should really have to worry about them the man you love gave you something he wants you to show off, it makes them proud when you look down and smile or show it off because then they feel they did something right! If your hiding it he might not like it and try to get something even more glamourous! That is what happened to me I am very modest as well! and the first ring was so simple and gorgeous I love it so much but then christmas came around and christmas morning in front of his family he gave me this ring that had 2 dimonds and 3 saphires! It was amazing and gorgeous but I was so afraid that everyone would get jealous and so I told him it doesn’t fit and now I just wear the simple one! I know it makes him feel bad and I hate that! My advise wear it and make sure he knows you love it! If others get jealous just say well at least he loves me and likes to spoil a modest woman like myself! Don’t do it boastfully but just make sure your not ashamed of it!
Don’t flash it around but also wear it proudly as a token of your man’s love. The only jealousy they’ll feel is that they weren’t the ones lucky enough to get your man. This is your time, enjoy it despite the envy of the other ladies. They’re missing out on a lot of happiness if all they can do it be jealous. Congratulations!
Dang sweeite, who cares?!? Wear that ring proudly.
expressing his feeling with changing another ring shows his real concern to you. you enjoy the feeling of importance he has given to smaller issues. This is what a woman want in her life, more of love and affection from her husband. Get least bothered about your sister and others. Avoid discussion about the ring with her. feel comfortable.
Engagements and marriages are very personal and no one is answerable in such matters to anybody.